A good place to meet would be Museo de Jamon.
http://www.talkingtree.com/gallery/Spain/Madrid/index17.cfm This is a tapa bar with a great atmosphere.Downstairs there is a nice bar area with hams hanging from the ceiling.You can meet there and order your tapas and enjoy some wine or beer.This is a popular place with young locals.
Upstairs is the dining room for the restaurant section if you need to reserve tables.The food is very good there.
This is not private and you can't dance there but with a large group that would be a lot of fun.I'm not sure about the hours or if it is open on Sundays.
Maybe Madridman would know.It's a very central location near Plaza Puerta del Sol.Can't get more central than that.