Posted by: Amanda Panda
American girl that's NOT looking for sex. Help! - 05/07/03 12:29 PM
Atrixo,
I am an American girl who could use your advice since you seem to be the expert on the American Woman psyche, I am a 21 year old American (female) college student, and I consider myself a friendly person but not willing to jump into bed with the first person that asks, as you have found in your experiences, my problem is that when I went to Madrid last summer, every Spanish or American guy I met thought that because I had conversation with them I wanted to go to bed with them. I really just enjoy going out and meeting new people, making new friends, and building relationships or should I say close friendships I know how the relationship word scares off most American men, I enjoy these people but don't neccessarily want to end up shagging them when its all said and done. The worst part about this whole dilemma was that each and every night when I went out in Madrid, I would meet beautiful Spaniards and Americans, who by the end of the night would have so much alcohol in them that they expected that I was willing to go home with them. It usually ended pretty badly, for I would end up feeling quite mean for having to awkwardly tell someone to get their hands off me, and keep saying no hundred times until they left me alone. What should I do?
I know that everyone thinks American girls are easy, however I am not, and no I am not a lesbian either, I just respect myself enough not to give it up on the drop of a hat. I enjoy talking to and meeting men, its not like Spanish women are dying to talk to the next American tourist girl that comes around. So it seems that the only people I can practice my Spanish with are men. Do I have to start every conversation with, "No I will not sleep with you, do you want to talk anyway?" I am also afraid that nine times out of ten they will say "no" Does anyone have any advice for a woman, going to Spain this summer and trying not "to get lucky"?
Thanks you all are great,
and shall I mention that " Sex in Spain? I need answers!!! " is has been the most amusing thread I've read thus far?
You guys have a great sense of humor.
I am an American girl who could use your advice since you seem to be the expert on the American Woman psyche, I am a 21 year old American (female) college student, and I consider myself a friendly person but not willing to jump into bed with the first person that asks, as you have found in your experiences, my problem is that when I went to Madrid last summer, every Spanish or American guy I met thought that because I had conversation with them I wanted to go to bed with them. I really just enjoy going out and meeting new people, making new friends, and building relationships or should I say close friendships I know how the relationship word scares off most American men, I enjoy these people but don't neccessarily want to end up shagging them when its all said and done. The worst part about this whole dilemma was that each and every night when I went out in Madrid, I would meet beautiful Spaniards and Americans, who by the end of the night would have so much alcohol in them that they expected that I was willing to go home with them. It usually ended pretty badly, for I would end up feeling quite mean for having to awkwardly tell someone to get their hands off me, and keep saying no hundred times until they left me alone. What should I do?
I know that everyone thinks American girls are easy, however I am not, and no I am not a lesbian either, I just respect myself enough not to give it up on the drop of a hat. I enjoy talking to and meeting men, its not like Spanish women are dying to talk to the next American tourist girl that comes around. So it seems that the only people I can practice my Spanish with are men. Do I have to start every conversation with, "No I will not sleep with you, do you want to talk anyway?" I am also afraid that nine times out of ten they will say "no" Does anyone have any advice for a woman, going to Spain this summer and trying not "to get lucky"?
Thanks you all are great,
and shall I mention that " Sex in Spain? I need answers!!! " is has been the most amusing thread I've read thus far?
You guys have a great sense of humor.